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#14 – Damon Dietz – Stay Enthusiastic

Ryan interviews Damon Dietz. Damon offers very important perspectives as a single dad and in trying to ensure his kids are active. 

Damon Dietz is a writer, filmmaker, and professional speaker, who shares his knowledge of finance, health and life from the perspective of a divorced dad over 40. He is a father to three amazing kids, and thinks dads are kick-ass, even when the rest of the world thinks we’re idiots.

Topics:

  • Raised by a single mom
  • Couldn’t wait to be a dad
  • Births of his children
  • Labor story
  • Not feeling an immediate connection to his kids during infancy
  • Separation and divorce
  • Being amicable during the process
  • Activities with the kids
  • Hiking
  • Introducing a new significant other
  • Calendar sharing and reminders for the family

Damon on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damondietzblog/
Website: http://damondietz.com/

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#13 – Damon Sumner – Marry Up

Ryan interviews Damon Sumner. Damon is married, a dad to three kids and a professional comedian. 

Damon’s Bio: Damon Sumner has been bringing laughter to people’s lives even before he held a mic on a stage. He has continued to hone his craft and every time he touches the stage, he delivers hilarious stories about his upbringing, and witty, high-energy observations of everyday life. Since starting standup in Atlanta, Damon has shared the stage with numerous headliners, like Iliza, Brent Morin, Todd Glass, Sarah Tiana, George Wallace, and so many more. He can be seen on EPIX’s “Unprotected Sets, Prime Video’s “Indie Life” and heard on Sirius XM’s “RAWDOG”. He co-hosts the hilarious podcast, “Forth and Ten” and runs shows all-around the ATL. In 2012, Damon toured China for a year and was a part of the team that opened the first full-time mainland comedy club in China, Kungfu Comedy Club. Damon has also performed in illustrious comedy festivals around the U.S. including the Dallas Comedy Festival, Laugh Your Asheville Off Comedy Festival, Out Of Bounds Comedy Festival, Hell Yes Comedy Festival and was a semi-finalist for the American Black Film Festival’s Comedy Wings Competition, sponsored by HBO. If you didn’t know, he’s about to become your new, favorite comic.

Topics: 

  • Becoming a comedian
  • Living in China
  • Favorite venues
  • Phase when children learn to wipe their butts
  • Don’t rush through phases
  • 8am Rule
  • Parenting in quarantine
  • Create a safe communication space with your children
  • Dinner table is screen free
  • Worst parts of having kids video series: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YvvUIOLB-3A
  • What he is optimistic about
  • Advice for new and expecting dads

Damon Sumner on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/damonasumner1
Better Dad on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy2KUvaohll8RQ8gRV9XyeQ/featured
Damon on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damonjr2/
Better Dad Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/better_dad/
Website: http://damonsumner.com/

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Being an Active Dad & Teaching Your Kids About Activity

Guest Post by: Damon Dietz

There was a time in my life that I would eat an entire pizza. Yep, eight full slices. That was in addition to a 2-liter bottle of diet coke. I thought that I was saving calories by opting for the diet version of the soda. SMH. My poor eating habits were the main reason I was fat, out of shape, and weighed 330 pounds. 

Things all changed for me once I had my first child. I decided that I needed to make a lifestyle shift, because if I kept on living the way that I was living I was going to drive myself to an early grave.  I wanted to be alive and well for my family. Having kids changed my life in more ways than you can imagine.

Well, a lot has changed since then. I have three amazing kids now. I have recently divorced, so I am raising my kids as a single dad. And I have lost over 130 pounds in total. Even though things changed, one thing remains constant… the importance of being an outstanding father to my kids. 

Here are my top three tips for being an active single dad and teaching my kids the importance of the physical activity. 


Lead By Example

Each morning when I wake up, I head to the designated workout area in my home and I perform my 10-minute stretching routine. Then I proceed to do a minimum of 20 minutes of exercise (usually strength training or the rowing machine).  The great thing about this routine is that my kids expect it. So, either one of two things happens. 

First, sometimes they join in. This is the best-case scenario, and while it doesn’t happen all the time, it happens regularly enough. My daughters love to join in on my stretching session and we often share some laughs at my lack of flexibility. My son thinks he is a master of doing pushups, so we all have lots of fun when they decide that they want to be a part of the exercise session in the morning. Alternatively, they leave me alone, The kids know that my exercise time is important to me, and it doesn’t last very long. So, for 30 minutes each morning, if they choose not to join in, they tend to themselves.


Make Physical Activity Fun

Hiking is an important part of my life. I enjoy the outdoors and the reprieve that hiking gives me from the stresses of life. So, I bring my kids hiking with me whenever possible. Hiking is a great way to stay active, but it doesn’t necessarily feel like exercise. I keep the family hikes shorter, and of course, I plan accordingly (bring kid-friendly snacks, plan frequent stops, and play some games along the way). 

What if you don’t like hiking? Well, you can plan any number of fun physical activities to do with your kids. All sports are great outlets for kids to expend energy and get the activity that they need. Soccer, basketball, baseball, swimming, tennis, volleyball, frisbee, gymnastics, and so much more!!


Play, Play, Play

If you find the idea of planning or organizing a sporting activity to play with your kids daunting, then, don’t plan, just play! Playgrounds, riding bikes or scooters, swingset, tag, & hide and seek are just a few of the activities that can give the kids the physical activity that they need and you can have fun while doing it.


Final Thoughts

These are just a few of the ways that I have found to implement into my daily life as a single dad to be active and teach my kids the importance of physical activity. I don’t ever want to push physical activity or exercise on the kids because then they will learn to resent it. Instead, I focus on leading by example and including them in activities that may be fun for the whole family. The more you incorporate physical activity and exercise into your daily routine, the more your kids will learn that exercise is the norm, rather than the exception that is only done once in a while. Now stop reading, and go outside and play with your kids!


About the Author

Damon Dietz is a writer, parenting coach, and professional speaker, who shares his knowledge of finance, health, parenting, and life from the perspective of a single dad over 40. He is a father to three amazing kids and thinks dads are kick-ass, even when the rest of the world sometimes thinks we’re idiots. You can get his best selling resource guide, for FREE, today only: 5 Free Activities To Help Dads Instantly Connect With Their Kids.


#12 – Jacob Birmingham: Be There

Ryan interviews Jacob Birmingham. Jacob lives with his wife and three kids in the great state of Texas. When he’s not swimming in diapers, he works as an animation artist, and storyteller. Jacob is also the cofounder of the Daddy Up App. We have a great conversation about becoming a dad and discuss the difficulties that their family went through for the birth of their second child. Jacob is thoughtful and talks about his drive to always be present with his family and encourages dads to be the same. 

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#11 – Luis Turcott: “Warden and Inmate”

Ryan interviews Luis Turcott. Luis is a young, first-time dad to one son. He is also a sales professional who works from home and travels frequently for his job. We discuss everything from a difficult birthing experience to juggling working from home while his son is home full time.

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#10 – Ryan Burnham: More About Day by Day Dad

Diana interviews Ryan. This episode is a bit different. It falls on Father’s Day and our 7 year wedding anniversary. Diana wanted to interview Ryan in order to go more in depth on Ryan as a person and as a Dad. 

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Celebrating Father’s Day

Father’s Day 2020 is my first as a father. Celebrating Father’s Day is bittersweet for me as it is the first as a father while also being the first time that I cannot see my father. He has spent the last 6 weeks in hospital after being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease and no longer being able to live at home. It’s not all doom and gloom as I know he’s receiving the best care possible but due to the current pandemic, I cannot visit him today. He can’t spend the day with his new granddaughter either.

I’ve spent the last couple of days reflecting on what celebrating Father’s Day would be for me this year. I don’t like to be the center of attention for celebrations like my birthday so a day to celebrate being a dad also goes beyond my normal comfort level. Writing that down makes it seem silly and helps to get over it.

In the past, this day meant getting my dad a gift to help make sure he feels loved and highlighted. That was usually an easy thing to do considering he is the ultimate handyman and enjoys any tool purchased at Home Depot. The thing that was lost on me until later in life is my dad really just enjoys spending time with his family. He was never the type of person who really enjoyed gifts. He would much rather be the gift giver and see the smile on the faces of his loved ones.


Reflecting on My Dad

I think the more important part of today is reflecting on what it means to be a dad; the dad that you want to be. Like most people, my dad and I have had our ups and downs over the last 32 years. I’m not the perfect son and he is not the perfect dad. Who are we to try measuring ourselves against some arbitrary grading system?

My father is the best father he can be. He always has been. His goal has always been to provide for his family. He never wants to see anything but smiles on the faces of his sons and will always shield us from anything that could impact us negatively. He has his faults and those are learned. Through the learning I’ve done recently, I’ve come to understand that experiences throughout our childhood come to impact the way we are as adults. My dad didn’t have the easiest upbringing and had to deal with difficult situations with his father. Thankfully for us, he learned from his childhood and decided that he would do everything to protect his children and give them the opportunity to be better than he is.


Becoming a Dad

My dad is made to be a dad. To be the provider. To be the caregiver for his family. His friends called him Moose because he was the biggest one of their group. He looked out for all of his friends through whatever shenanigans they may have gotten into. He transitioned from being the one looking out for his friends to the one looking out for his family and most importantly my mother. That came to include her family that he has always considered his family. They both waited years after getting married to have a child. Medical complications meant they couldn’t have a child of their own. They still waited 8 years on a waiting list to adopt a child. They had the opportunity to adopt me and were surprised that they had my brother naturally only 5 years later. My dad’s life has been complete ever since.

His mission in life has been to be the best father he could ever be. Dad, Mission Accomplished.

I wasn’t sure I wanted to be a dad. There were just too many unknowns. On my first Father’s Day, I know that it was one of the best decisions that I’ve ever made. Baby I has completed our little family. She has also brought out something in me that I didn’t know existed. Day after day, I see more of my dad in my actions. I also see similarities in how he adjusted his parenting to improve on his own upbringing.

My dad has taught me that your wife and kids are your world. They are the ones you live for. You live for the smiles on their faces. You are their protector. You live to give your child every opportunity possible so they can be even better than you are. You teach them right from wrong. You include them in your interests and include yourself in theirs. You care for them like the father and partner they need you to be. You are humble enough to know that they will teach you things.


Father’s Day 2020

Today is a hard day. I’m writing this while I wipe away tears. Dad would wipe them for me and tell me to buck up, kiddo. Yes, 32 years old and I’m still kiddo. Or Mowgli. Both nicknames used interchangeably throughout the years. I’m going to do just that, dad. And I’m going to spend the entire day telling Baby I about her grandfather. How much he loves her and wants the best for her. The fact that he knows he’s raised his son to be the father she needs to be. And if he isn’t, then her grandfather will make sure to set him straight. Dad never hesitated to set us straight because he has always wanted the best for us.

I’m also going to call him in the hospital. I’m going to tell him about his granddaughter. The last time I did, he was smiling and so happy. His nurses were ecstatic to see him so happy. I know that will make his day yet again. He has an enormous heart and I know that it has grown a little bigger to make room for his granddaughter. The new love of his life.

Today is a day to celebrate becoming a dad. I’m going to celebrate in the best way that I know. I’m going to spend time talking about my dad because he has made me the man that I am today.

#9 – Andrew Tiu: Dad Verb

Ryan interviews Andrew Tiu. Andrew is a dad of two and the creator of Dad Verb.

Dad Verb Bio: Dad Verb produces branded and original content for young families from a dad’s perspective. We create videos and reviews for a variety of family-related products from home tech to baby gear. Our goal is to encourage dads, educate new parents and assuage the fears of becoming a parent. As we blend review videos with personal vlogs, we ultimately want to challenge the stigma that fathers are inferior at parenting and can have a voice in this space.

Dad Verb on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvcJAvDPOIH82MKCJV3TV5A/about
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dad_verb/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HiDadverb/

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#8 – Alice Turner: SupportingHer

Ryan interviews Alice Turner. Alice is the creator of SupportingHer. 

SupportingHer is an easy way to learn all you need to know, at your own pace, in less than two hours from your computer or phone. You can pass on the boring books and all-day classes and be confidently ready for the big day.

With more than 15 years of experience as a doula and nine as a Lamaze certified childbirth educator, Alice has supported more than 300 births and knows the power of a prepared partner. While working with dads during a couples’ childbirth class, Alice was surprised by how much more engaged and inquisitive they. She developed a tailored curriculum, filmed it with dads in a local brewery and SupportingHer was born! Prior to becoming a doula, Alice
received a Biomedical Engineering degree from Vanderbilt University and spent her early professional life working as a database programmer in healthcare.

Topics: 

  • What is SupportingHer
  • Mission
  • Why Alice became a doula
  • Live class that Alice was teaching which lead to SupportingHer
  • Breakdown of the course
  • Why a supporting person is so important for birth outcomes
  • Favorite things to happen at a birth
  • Being prepared and present post-partum
  • Things to focus on when panic sets in
  • Adaptations during pandemic
  • BRAINS analogy
  • Lean in, don’t step back
  • Timing of the course
  • Favorite way to give physical support
 

Where to find SupportingHer: https://supportingher.com/daybydaydad
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/supportingher_class/ and https://www.instagram.com/100percentdoula/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SupportingHer/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/100percentdoula

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#7 – Scott Hall: Fireworks

Ryan interviews Scott Hall. Scott is a software sales professional and father of 3 children. There is a 5.5 year gap between each child. Scott offers an interesting perspective on raising children with a bigger gap between the children’s ages and being a dad to both a boy and girls. Scott absolutely loves being a dad and is so proud of his children.

Topics:

  • Being predestined to have kids based on the relationship with his parents
  • Had experience raising a child early on
  • Finding the sweet spot of time between kids
  • Each child can go through their life phase themselves
  • Finding out he was having a son and the calming effect
  • Felt complete when having a baby girl
  • Most exciting time during the pregnancy
  • The difference between the first few weeks with the first child and the second
  • Biggest fear as a parent
  • Adventure guides: https://advguide.com/
  • Activities with the kids
  • What Scott enjoys most about being a parent

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